My son was trying to be helpful. His helpfulness cause this man to display hate. I stop my children homeschooling and moved them to their room immediately.
The day I face racism and hate inside my own home. I was shocked, scared and confused. I found myself apologizing to the person because I couldn’t believe what I have seen and heard. The maintenance man entered my home and my 6 year old son tapped him on his back to show him where the water was seeping through the floor. As I stared around the corner. I seen the man look at my son with a hate filled facial expression as if he was disgusted and told my son to “leave him alone.” I apologized to the man and he said “its okay, I don’t want him touching me.” I went on to apologize more than once.
Everytime the man entered the room they were in I moved them to another room. I felt shattered and got on the phone with someone and explain what was going on. I tried to stop the tears from flowing down my face but I couldn’t because my son is a child who is taught to love everyone. I could no longer look towards this man.
A day prior to the incident, my son, daughter and I read from a book of virtues and held a conversation afterwards. The conversation was about love and how we all have flesh under our skin. Our skin is just a covering to protect our flesh. Everyone has organs and bleed the same color blood. Our tears is clear and it represents pain, loneliness and sometimes happiness. I also told them to always pray for people who display hate and help those who are in need. I love everyone and teach my children to do the same but what happens when an innocent child is exposed to hate by an adult.
My son didn’t understand what was going on as far as why the maintenance man did and said what he said but I got him away from him. He still didn’t care about being around the man because of his innocence. He is taught love but this world is filled with hate.
I realize in the end my apologies wasn’t really to the man but towards his action and word. It was because I felt sorry for him and the judgement he will face with God. As a Christian I will continue to love and pray for people and things I don’t understand.
I’m an introvert but if you ever see me in public, just know I love you even though I don’t know you and I teach my children the same. If I could change the world I would create love and respect among mankind. I would erase how people treat people based on culture, color, gender, size, disability, wealth and poverty. It’s the heart and ones action that will be judged in the end.
We must raise our children to love all so things like what happened to my 6 year old son and many more out there won’t continue. Parents it all begins with you. If you teach your child to hate certain people they will. Rich should love the poor and vice versa. One color should love and embrace all color. Look around you. If this world was one color it would be boring. If the sky isn’t blue and the grass green it would be boring!
At the end of the day I was proud of my children. They prayed for GOD to change this maintenance man’s heart so he could be a better person. I am happy I homeschool because I am able to train up my child towards the right direction. I am able to keep them away from people who display hate and bullying. Which are unGODLY principles. I am able to see and experience things that I probably would miss if they were in public school.
P.S
I want to say thank you to my previous maintenance man Charlie from my old place for being nice to my children and always greeted them back with a smile. Its people like you and many more I have met who give me hope in this hateful world. I will continue teaching my children about love. The same love God ask for us to display to our neighbors.
1 Peter 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
John 15:12: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” 1
Corinthians 13:13: “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
Written By: Wislaine